9 Misconceptions of a Chinese Muslimah Convert in Singapore

1. We automatically changed our race when we became Muslim.

"So you can speak Malay too?"

"OMG, you can speak Chinese???"

"I don't get it... so you're half-Malay and half-Chinese?"

"Are you going to change your name to Siti bte...?"

I'm Chinese, my parents are Chinese, my grandparents are Chinese, and my great-grandparents and great-great-grandparents are Chinese. Becoming a muslim did not suddenly transform one of my ancestors to Malay and neither did it give me a sudden gift to speak Malay out of the blue (although I do wish I had such a gift for languages).

2. We're no longer Chinese because we can't eat pork.

Yes I get it that most of our Chinese dishes have pork in them. But linking the fact that we no longer eat pork to losing our 'chinese-ness' is akin to saying that our 'chinese DNA' is somehow located in a pig. Thanks but no thanks.

By the way, chicken bak kut teh is just as nice. So is deng deng (the chicken version of bakkwa).

3. We definitely converted because of our muslim partner/fiance/husband.

Well I don't blame you if you think that way, because it is quite a common case where we were introduced to Islam through them. BUT it does not mean we lack a brain and the ability to think for ourselves, because after all, we were not forced to convert. Contrary to popular belief, many of us actually do go to read up on Islam before we actually took the step to convert. Please do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT start preaching to us as if we did not consider all the 'repercussions' of our conversion. We do appreciate the concern, but at the same time we do not wish for you to look... uninformed.

I also apologize beforehand if you meet me and make such an assumption- It is inevitable that I might roll my eyes uncontrollably. It's not directed at you, just at the fact that it has happened virtually EVERY SINGLE TIME I tell someone I am muslim.

4. We are okay with polygamy since our husbands are allowed to marry up to 4 wives.

I get this a LOT. Frankly I'm really tired of this question, because I'm getting attacked front left right and back with it. Islam is the ONLY religion to dictate that the men should marry just one, if he cannot see himself to be just to more than one wife. Plus what our husbands choose to do will not affect you in any way. It's between them and us.

Having said this, won't you ask yourself why we have chosen to subjugate ourselves to Islam despite such obligations? Doesn't it say so much more about the authenticity of the message of Islam?

5. Women are oppressed in Islam! We'll have to stay in the kitchen and serve tea forever.

How about, men are oppressed in Islam because they have to slog and earn money to provide for their wives while their wives get to earn their keep? Just because men and women have different roles does not mean one is superior over the other. And we women definitely do not feel at all oppressed one little bit, so stop harping over it. We are not brainwashed, nor have we been possessed to become meek, subservient wives.

6. Once you're in, you can't get out. They'll punish you. That's why there're so few people converting out of Islam.

No, you'll just get yourself a lengthy counseling session. Because this is Singapore, not ISIS.

Many times though, there is still a social stigma linked to converting (as do all other religions), especially prevalent amongst the older, more traditional generation. But for us converts whose parents and relatives mostly do not share our joy in us becoming muslim, converting out of it is easy-peasy, as we'd be seen as going back to 'normal'. But- Nauzubillah- I am shivering at the thought that I was this close to continue being non-muslim, and the thought of ever converting out of Islam. I pray I die a Muslim, insha'Allah!! 

7. We believe non-muslims go to hell.

Actually, we'd be the ones to go to hell for ever assuming that about you. Go read this post, it'll give you a better picture.

8. We might become terrorists one day.

Yeah, the probability is as high as you becoming one, too. It's the same thing when the word 'expat' is given only to you if you're caucasian, and 'immigrant' if you're Asian, or African, or Indian etc. A crazy christian terrorist, therefore, will be called a 'crazy man', whereas the word 'terrorist' will only be reserved for muslims. Stop following mainstream media and open your eyes to the rest of the terrorist attacks by other non-muslim groups that these propogandic media conveniently leaves out.

9. We all lost our minds.

Yeah, like suddenly, we became dumb and unable to make rational decisions, because of the fact that we did not consider all the points, especially those mentioned earlier. We get people telling us we're stupid, looking at us piteously because we can no longer show off our hair and have to wear short dresses and skirts. We get people trying to advise us based on the misconceptions mentioned above (seriously I don't mind well-meaning advice, debates, and intense talks on religion, but do not try to convert me by telling me that Muslim women are not allowed to drive, or something along that line). As much as I believe in your ability to think, so should you respect mine as well.

So please, the next time you ever do see a Chinese Muslim in Singapore, please do know that we are as Chinese as the (Singaporean) Chinese can be, and as much as we appreciate your concern, we'd rather you see that we've chosen Islam for the beauty of the Faith rather than for the unfortunate, screwed-up misconceptions which you hold of it.

Wa'alaikumassalam (And peace be with you).

Reviews (14 comments)

  • JEFF AZMAN ABDUL GANI On

    One word ” Alhamdullillah! “.

  • Anonymous On

    Salam Sis

    May Allah ease your burden in your journey to jannah.

  • nasyitahtanwahling On

    Salam sis. We basically have the same journey hahaha! May Allah grant us all patience, humility and patience to deal with ignorance that come our way.

    That said, there are also family and friends (real ones!) who have been the sweetest ever since I donned the hijab. Alhamdulillah for them

    Looking forward to read your next post.

    Nasyitah

  • Sister Iman Wong On

    Salams Sister :
    I find your article interesting, Alhamdulillah. I being a revert like yourself wish to contact you to invite you to our Chinese speaking teverts sharing session at Darul Arqam, Insya’Allah.
    Hope to hear from you soon.

    Wassalam
    Sis Iman Wong

  • MissWardah On

    Assalamualaikum wr wb! Alhamdulillah feeling uber blessed to have stumbled upon your blog! =) May Allah swt reward
    you with immense goodness for the work that you are doing! <3

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